So what do you look for to see if your husband might be cheating?
Obvious changes in his attitude or routine might not be the only clues, and these things might not be related to cheating at all.
Looking for signs of an affair is complicated, but here are a few things to keep in mind:
1) He’s Suddenly Shaving
Maybe it is just a little harmless flirting with a cute new girl in the office who makes him feel young again, or maybe it is something worse.
2) He’s Dressing Better
You may be thrilled that he is finally listening to your nagging about his old clothes, but it could be that he has a new woman he is trying to impress with his sense of style.
This could be a sign that he is having an affair.
It is still not time to accuse him of anything, but make the extra effort to be there for him so that he doesn’t feel the need to seek attention elsewhere.
3) He has a New Favorite
Maybe he has a new favorite sweater that he wears golfing all of a sudden or a new bag that he takes to the gym every time.
There are reasonable explanations for this as well, but if the clues are piling up, you may be getting suspicious.
4) The Devil is in the Details
He can’t remember the name of the place that they went to for dinner or drinks, either. Suddenly getting details out of your man is like pulling teeth.
Be even more worried if he gives you details and then they change the next time you ask.
This is almost certainly a sign that he is being dishonest.
5) The Phone becomes a Secret
Another clue is that he de-itemized the phone bill for no apparent reason.
If you are wondering what he is up to that requires him to be so secretive, you may want to start asking questions.
These could be signs of an affair.
If this fits your husband, it could be because he is thinking about his new fling instead of being in the moment with you and your family.
His behavior could be due to stress from work, but it could also be signs of an affair and a signal that there is marital danger ahead.
7) He’s Withdrawing from You
Come to think of it, how long has it been since you two have had sex?
And if the two of you are still having sex, who initiates it?
8) The Sex is Different
It might also suddenly be incredible, which could be a reaction to how sexy his new fling makes him feel.
If his libido has suddenly shut off, you should be looking out for other signs of an affair.
Keep in mind that he might just be stressed out or tired and don’t hold it against him if it seems like this is really the case.
Be there for him and offer to give him what he needs.
Once you come down from the rush of a newfound pleasure, ask yourself where he might have learned how to do this new technique.
10) Shifting the Blame
When you ask him why he is late, he launches into a rant about how hard he works and how little you appreciate him, when really you were just curious.
If your husband reacts this way, you may have cause to be curious about something else.
If he starts getting defensive, look out for other behavioral changes and decide how to deal with the situation.
Adding it Up
You may not like what he has to say about the state of your relationship, but your diligence and attentiveness may have caught him before the affair progressed into a full blown relationship.
You may even be able to salvage your life together if you confront him early enough.
Finding out that your spouse is cheating is difficult and painful, but imagine how much worse it would be if you were totally unaware of the situation?
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Not every man behaves the same way when he cheats and some men actually get a buzz out of loving more than one woman, but the signs of an affair are still there.