Consistently rolling your eyes during fights may be a sign that your relationship is doomed, according to Happify, a digital gaming platform that allows you to “train your brain” into becoming happy. The company’s new infographic, The Science of a Happy Relationship, which is based on research complied by their in-house team of neuroscientists and psychologists, shows that certain behaviors can determine whether or not couples have what it takes to achieve long-term happiness. Personally, I was shocked when I saw such a tiny action was listed as an indicator of an unhappy union— but I did some digging and it all started to make sense.
According to Dr. John Gottman, co-founder of the Relationship Research Institute and the lead researcher behind a landmark study about divorce predictors, rolling your eyes when your partner speaks is a sign of contempt. His research shows contempt is the number 1 predictor of divorce— beating out criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling. What a fun bunch! Dr. Gottman also found that couples who are contemptuous of each other are also more likely to suffer from infectious illnesses like the flu (talk about a relationship buzzkill).