1. He keeps asking you only for coffee. Coffee dates are fine for first dates, but after that, if he can’t invest more than a dollar or two, it might be time to question how much he values your company. “Nothing says I’m keeping our dates casual-and you in the friend zone-more than repetitive coffee dates,” says author and Match.com columnist Dave Singleton. “He needs to choose date spots that show he’s got imagination, not just load you up on caffeine.”
2. He wants to split an entrée. Splitting an appetizer or a dessert can be romantic, but the main dish? “If he wants to split an entrée, it can be a sign that he is planning to split a whole lot more with you-his time, his energy, every dinner bill in your near future,” says dating coach Marni Battista, founder of Dating with Dignity.
3. He just assumes you’ll split the check. There’s nothing worse than a guy who invites you out and springs the “women’s equality” argument when it’s time to pay. “Yes, the modern era means we gals can fend for ourselves but the general rule is ‘whomever extends the invitation pays,’” says Baldock. You can always do the “wallet grab” when the check comes, but most non-dollar-counting dates will refuse your offer to “go Dutch.”