So that fact is that I’m something of a private person.
And perhaps a bit old-fashioned as well. But I’m not just one to discuss something like this so, well,publicly. Perhaps save that conversation for a quiet cup of tea together.
Yet here we are. Talking about IT.
So why’s that? Because we can’t talk about a wonderful, rich marriage without it. Intimacy plays such a powerful role in marriage. It’s how God designed us to be: two souls…two bodies becoming one. As close as a man and a woman can be. A beautiful thing.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” So they are no longer two but one flesh. (Mark 10:7-8)
Recognizing that this is a vast and sometimes complicated subject, here are some things that I can offer to the wives:
Intimacy is a spiritual act. Not merely physical. Once I came to realize this, then everything changed for me. The biggest revelation being that I could pray about this area in our relationship. And so I did.
I’ve asked God to give me a desire for my husband when I was going through a particularly difficult season in my life. I’ve asked for insight when we found ourselves struggling in a way we never had before. I’ve asked for strength when I was tired – and healing for when our relationship was hurting.
God does not give us the gift of intimacy and then leave us to figure it out on our own. He has not left us all alone in this.
Intimacy is not optional. It should not be avoided or neglected in marriage. And should never be used as a power-play in your relationship. Never. Of course, there are those occasional extenuating circumstances such as illness or new babies (remember, I’ve given birth to 8 children!). Then there is also the challenge that comes with sin (resources listed below). Other than those things, however, Scripture tells us we’re not to keep away from each other.
Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (I Cor. 7:5)
Intimacy is worth investing in. Pray about it. Ask God to protect this area for you both. Make it a priority in your relationship which might mean you need to rest up and plan for it. And if you need help, then seek it out. But whatever you do – don’t give up and don’t ignore it. Love-making is a beautiful gift from God to be treasured. SOURCE
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