1. Celebrate special anniversaries.
The day you met, the anniversary of your first date, your first kiss, the day you bought your first house, picked out your first pet, or found out you were pregnant with your first child. The point is (and what makes it extra special) is that you don’t tell anyone else what you’re celebrating. Why? Secret rituals like these cement the intimate bond only the two of you share.
2. Code your conversations in public.
You can reap benefits by putting your heads together to create secret code words, phrases, and nonverbal signals to communicate with each other in public. These can run the gamut from talking about your dog when one of you is ready to bail from a boring party, or tugging on your ear to convey, “I love you,” across a crowded room, to establishing a certain look that signals, “Let’s not argue about this, it’s just not worth it.”
3. Don’t spill on social media.
It’s fine to occasionally gush, “I have the best guy in the world.” But, before broadcasting details about an amazing date night, a special gift he gave you, or the particulars of a recent romantic weekend getaway, ask yourself, “What’s more important: passion with my partner or approval from my social media friends?”