You may think that your man just doesn’t pay attention to you. It may be because of the way you communicate to him. There are some things you need to know about how men take in information. Here is some helpful advice.


Several years ago, I thought about writing a book on How to Effectively Communicate with your Man. It seemed like every minister, talk show host, magazine etc. dealt with this particular issue. Of course I was very open to the topic, because at the time, I was having a very hard time effectively communicating with the man in my life. We were literally speaking two different languages and neither one of us felt the need to take the time to attempt to learn the other persons communication style. In order to move forward in the relationship, we decided to work on the way we communicated by acknowledging the problems in our individual communication skills

Below are 12 tidbits that I learned during my time of communication discovery. These tidbits come from various places, church messages, talk shows, magazine articles and of course my own personal experience. I don’t believe that all men are the same. But I do believe that they possess similar foundational characteristics that aid in the application of these tidbits.

Personally, I believe that majority of these skills could be used with a man or a woman. By no means do I claim to be a communications expert, but I have lived on both sides of the communication spectrum and there is nothing better than the effective communication side. I hope these help.

12 Ways to effectively communicate with your man:

Speak in headlines- women are to detail oriented. Men really don’t care what you have to say. They love you, but they don’t want to hear every detail. Give them the short, short version- 10 seconds or less. Speak in headlines as if you were reading the headline in the newspaper to him. Then he will hear you. (Trust me on this one ladies)

Know your man. You know your mans temperament, his likes and dislikes and you also know his pain points. You know how to love him and you know how to make him bleed. At all times, use wisdom and walk in love in every area. However when angry, be very careful in your decision to inflict pain. Men are much more sensitive than you think and if you draw blood too often you might eventually reach a point of no return. READ MORE