You have reached a point in your life where you no longer wish to indulge yourself in a lifestyle that follows the flesh. Multiple partners in and out of your bedroom have left you with an empty hole in your soul. You need to be whole again.


In the Song of Solomon, there is a conversation between the Shulamite and her Beloved. At one point in their conversation, the Shulamite says to her girlfriends:

“I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem,

By the gazelles or by the does of the field,

Do not stir up nor awaken love

Until it pleases.”

Song of Solomon 2:7

Whenever you have sex with someone, you leave a piece of you with them. It’s crazy to think that so much of us may be scattered across the globe. How do you gather the pieces once you’ve decided to settle down and marry? Does the fragmentation affect your intimacy? Hmmm…

I remember there was a ministry at our church called, “Inner Healing.” It was a time when the facilitator would help you dig into the depth of your soul to draw out all of the hurt and pain that you may have once suffered. Often times, it was a matter of getting in touch with the little girl/boy who was wounded so long ago and understanding who and what hurt them. Along the process, it became clear (for those that had been sexually active and unmarried) that there were “soul ties” that had been established with the many sexual partners that they encountered. In order to move forward in life with clarity and wholeness, the essence of inner healing was to break the soul ties and renounce the damaging impact that it may have had on your life. What a powerful ministry. READ MORE