1. Intense eye contact. Alpha males, of both the human and animal variety, are not quick to avert their gaze from eye contact as “beta” or other less dominant males are wont to do. Dog owners, for example, will often “stare down” their dogs in order to prove dominance while training them. Whether or not being trained like a dog is your thing (hey, it could be), dating a guy who has the confidence to meet your gaze – and hold it – is pretty sexy.
2. He’s resilient. Alpha males are persistent. They know what they want – and they work hard to get it. This is good news for you and your potential alpha male boyfriend. As leading depression researcher, Peter D. Kramer asserts: happiness is not the opposite of depression, resilience is. Bouncing back from rejection and overcoming difficulties are much easier with a positive belief that one can and will, in fact, get over this hurdle and even thrive in the process. Dating a man who persists in meeting his goals – be it in his career or in the bedroom – as an alpha male does, means dating someone who picks himself up by his own bootstraps; he doesn’t wait around for you to do it.